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Article: Anal Sex: A Beginner's Guide

Anal Sex: A Beginner's Guide

Anal Sex: A Beginner's Guide

Understanding Anal Sex

Anal sex involves penetration of the anus and can be practiced by couples of any gender or sexuality. It's important to proceed with care and sensitivity, as the anus is not self-lubricating and the tissue is more delicate than that of the vagina. Communication with your partner is key to a successful and enjoyable experience.

The Importance of Consent

Before exploring anal sex, ensure that both partners are fully consenting and comfortable with the idea. Discuss any concerns and establish a safe word to communicate if anyone needs to stop at any point.

Preparation is Key


Many people worry about cleanliness when it comes to anal sex. Taking a shower beforehand can help you feel more comfortable and relaxed. Some may also choose to use an enema (douche), although it's not a necessity. Shop our collection of douches here.

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A good, water-based or silicone-based anal lubricant is essential for anal sex. It reduces friction and makes the experience more comfortable and enjoyable for both partners. Explore the full collection of anal lubricants here.


Time For Some A-Action

Start Slow

Begin with gentle external stimulation to relax the sphincter muscles. Once comfortable, you can slowly introduce penetration with a finger, penis or anal trainers.

Comfortable Positioning

Find a position that is comfortable for the receiving partner. Common positions include lying on the side, doggy style, or missionary with legs raised. Go with what feels best.

Gradual Penetration

The penetrating partner should start slowly, with gentle and gradual movements. The receiving partner should guide the pace and depth of penetration to ensure comfort.


Post-anal sex care is important. The receiving partner might need to use the restroom to expel any remaining lube or bodily fluids. It's also a good time for both partners to discuss the experience and provide emotional support to each other.

Health and Safety

Using condoms is highly recommended to prevent the transmission of STIs. If you're using sex toys, ensure they're clean before and after use. Never transition from anal to vaginal penetration without thorough cleaning to prevent infections.

By understanding the basics and taking the necessary precautions, anal sex can be a pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire. Remember, communication, consent, and comfort are the cornerstones of any sexual activity. Enjoy exploring new dimensions of intimacy with your partner, and always prioritize safety and mutual enjoyment.

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